
The women and girls - Deutschland
For Germany, we have so far found thirteen women and girls killed in sexual violence that is claimed to be consensual. One is a British woman, Anna, whose German boyfriend awaits trial for her death in Switzerland, and one is an unnamed German woman killed in Sweden by her boyfriend: he was acquitted of killing her. Of the eleven women whose killings were prosecuted in German courts, three perpetrators received suspended sentences - these men were convicted of negligent homicide, a form of manslaughter. In Germany, those found guilty of unlawful killing may be convicted of Mord - murder; Totschlag - deliberate killing but without “murderous intent” or base motives, perhaps equivalent to culpable homicide in Scotland or manslaughter in England; or fahrlässige Tötung - negligent homicide.
In Germany, the women’s full names and images are not often released in the media - this has made it more difficult to find these women’s cases, although we have respected this approach. German press reporting of the detail of these cases can be extremely lurid, and - in common with reporting elsewhere - will often repeat uncritically the words of the men accused of these killings.
We have found no cases of a German woman killing or injuring a man in a Sexspiele, gone wrong.
2019, Locarno, Switzerland
Anna R. was from the UK and was killed by her German boyfriend Marc S. in a hotel in Switzerland in 2019. She died - seemingly from strangulation - with other injuries in the form of cuts and microfractures to her upper body.
Marc S. is currently in custody in Switzerland awaiting trial. He claimed to police that Anna had asked him to strangle her, and this was widely reported in German and UK press
Awaiting trial
Krefeld (2018)
Christel was 49 and had two children. She was killed by her husband Ralph J. (52). According to her son Christel was a vulnerable woman. She had tried to leave the relationship, fleeing first to a psychiatric hospital and later to a women’s refuge. But she had recently returned to the relationship and agreed to marry Ralph J.. He killed her days after their wedding, leaving her to suffer for 4 days without medical attention, before she died. Medical examiners say she could have been saved if she had gotten immediate medical attention. She had suffered fatal internal injuries caused by the insertion of spiked wheel.
Ralph J. was sentenced to 1,5 years for negligent homicide and allowed to walk free with the sentence suspended. The judge gave a lenient sentence because he viewed Christel and her murderer as “happy newlyweds” and expressed that Ralph J. was suffering greatly from the loss of his wife. The judge accepted Christel had “consented” to the acts that led to her injuries, pointing out that she even had a tattoo of a BDSM symbol.
Negligent homicide 1,5 years - sentence suspended
Bielefeld/Bünde (2017)
In November 2017 Markus H. (48) killed his wife, Natalie W., by strangling her. He faked suicide notes and hid her body in his garage for several months, while her family searched for her. Natalie had been going to leave him.
After being charged with murder, he admitted to faking the suicide and instead claimed Natalie died in a “sex-game gone wrong” and that she “loved being strangled with a belt until she had trouble breathing”- that this time it simply went “too far”. The prosecution made the argument that this couldn’t have happened in the context of a “sex-game”, because Markus and the victim had been “in a sexless marriage for months”.
Totschlag (Manslaughter), 10 years
Manheim (2014)
Rica V. (46) was killed by Oliver D. (46). They had been in a relationship for 5 years - he was also married. He claimed Rita had died accidentally after he left her with a cucumber in her mouth, which they had been using for sex. He said in court that he left her to attend to his burning stove, then to smoke a cigarette and to feed his dog and on his return she had fallen into a coma. She was found to have several pieces of cucumber in her throat. Both had been drinking. The judge called it “a tragic accident”.
He walked free, receiving a suspended sentence and a €6.000 fine.
https://www.express.co.uk/news/world/647083/Woman-dies-cucumber-sex-romp-lover-forgot-her
Negligent homicide, 1 year 8 months, suspended
Stockholm (2013)
An unnamed German woman was killed by a Swedish man (31) during intercourse. Prior to having sex both victim and perpetrator had taken heavy drugs - him also having drunk copious amounts of alcohol. The coroner’s report detailed severe injuries to the woman’s body, including evidence of “123 individual beatings” with a stick. Additionally to being high on drugs, the woman had been gagged at the time, unable to respond or ask the perpetrator to stop, she presumably suffocated.
While the court described the violence perpetrator as “exceptionally ruthless” it found the unnamed man only guilty of bodily injury, not of murder, sentencing him to just 10 months in prison. The court argued for this sentence by pointing to the evidence that the victim had “consented” to the perpetrator taking a “dominant role” as well as some of the violence inflicted on her - meaning that they couldn’t say with certainty if his ruthlessness had killed her or not and whether he was thus responsible or not.
https://www.bild.de/regional/muenchen/zehn-monate-haft-nach-sex-mit-toedlichem-29332110.bild.html
https://www.bild.de/news/aktuell/studentin-stirbt-nach-sexspielen-in-schweden-29327524.bild.html
Natalia P., 44, Postdam/Stade (2011)
Natalia (44) was a Russian woman in prostitution who was killed by a john, Alexander D. (32). Before the court Alexander D. claims that he and Natalia were a couple - in love even. After paying to access Natalia 3-4 times, he claims she never asked for payment again and that the two bonded over the recent loss of their mothers. According to Alexander part of their “lovemaking routine” was Natalia asking him to strangle her to the point of dizziness, which he initially refused to do. A few weeks into their relationship Alexander D. visited Natalia when - according to him - she again insisted that he’d strangle during sex, which he agreed to. This time he strangled Natalia till she suffocated and died. Alexander D. reports feeling upset and suicidal following the “accident”. A friend later convinced him to report himself to the police.
Alexander, though described by friends and family as a loving man who took care of his aging relatives, was also forbidden to have contact with his daughter from his first marriage.
The court ruled Natalia’s murder an “accident” and handed Alexander D. sentence of two years probation.
https://www.pnn.de/kultur/ueberregional/trauerspiel-alexander-und-natalia-ein/21848546.html
Wiesbaden (2009)
An unnamed woman (58) was murdered near Wiesbaden by an unnamed man (26) with a drug addiction and several priors relating to violent crime. Reportedly the murderer and victim met gambling at a casino in the city just hours prior to the murder. At the time the victim was homeless and looking for a place to stay, which the perpetrator hoped to abuse to gain sexual access to her. According to his version of events the two had consenual sex during which she supposedly asked him to strangle her during which she died accidently.
The prosecution charged the perpetrator with rape and murder and demanded a 14 year sentence. The defense argued in favour of “accidental death” during consenual sex.
What source is the lower part? It’s not the three below!
Before the Wiesbaden district court began on Monday, the trial for the murder of a 58-year-old woman. Accused is a 26-year-old man. He is said to have raped and strangled the woman in Wiesbaden in June. The two had met, according to the prosecutor, in an arcade at the station. Indeed, it had come because the homeless woman did not want to sleep with the 26-year-old. The accused, however, had testified at the police that he had accidentally killed the woman in sex games.
H pleased guilty to negligent homicide but was found guilty of murder “However, according to the court, "massive injuries" to the victim in the genital and cervical areas are clearly against an accident. Although it is quite possible that the woman voluntarily engaged in sex with the defendant. However, she could not have tolerated the enormous pain her sexual intercourse had caused her. "Nobody accepts such massive acts of violence," said the presiding judge.
Whether the 26-year-old strangled the woman during intercourse or only afterwards, is unclear. However, it is clear that the man with the act either wanted to cover up the rape or to make the woman submissive, who resisted the sexual violence, the judge justified the verdict. The lawyer of the defendant announced that he would appeal the verdict.
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https://www.bild.de/regional/frankfurt/14-jahre-haft-fuer-toetung-von-obdachloser-10419862.bild.html
https://www.neuepresse.de/Nachrichten/Panorama/25-Jaehriger-erwuergt-Frau-beim-Sex
Krefeld (2009)
Jessica H. (19) was murdered by her boyfriend, Björn B. (19), who enjoyed choking women. During one date with Jessica H. he put plastic bags over both their heads, from which she suffocated. Björn B. commited suicide directly after. The owner of a BDSM studio in Düsseldorf told the press about the killer: “He was a very sensitive person. The death of that girl surely was too much to take.”
Görlitz, Saxony (2009)
Yvonne M. (20) was found naked encased in concrete inside a quarry. She had recently ended her relationship with her ex-boyfriend, 22 year old Steffen S. was arrested for her murder. According to him, Yvonne died during “sex games”. He had tied a cable around her neck and later suffocated her with a pillow. He realised too late that something was "wrong" with Yvonne. He was initially believed and let go in 2009, but arrested again after a new coroner's report in 2010 found that his statements were not in line with medical findings.
Murder, life
https://www.bild.de/regional/dresden/freund-der-fass-toten-wieder-in-haft-13334282.bild.html
https://www.bild.de/regional/dresden/tote-im-steinbruch--verdaechtiger-bleibt-13608960.bild.html
https://www.spiegel.de/panorama/justiz/prozess-in-goerlitz-mordmotiv-trabi-a-767989.html
Bielefeld (2009)
Olga P. (21) was a Ukranian woman in prostitution in North Rhine-Westphalia, who was hoping to save up money to get herself into university and sending money home to her impoverished widowed mother. In 2009 she was killed by Jakob F. (42). He claims they met in the Ukraine and started a consensual sexual relationship - he was also married with children.
On the day she died, Jakob F. met with Olga P. in a brothel, where he tied her body with cables and strangled her - according to him this was regular practice between them. Although he was "too drunk" to remember fully what happened, in "a state of shock" he put her body into a suitcase to take it home to put it into his freezer - where he kept her body for three years.
He had inflicted blunt trauma on the back of his Olga’s head, knocking her unconscious, and the cable ties she'd been strangled with were over, her clothes. On the day she is believed to have died, he bought the freezer. At the time he killed Olga P., Jakob F. had been convicted of trafficking women from the Ukraine into prostitution and was serving a prison sentence for this, with periodic permission to leave prison.
While initially sentenced for life for murder, Jakob F.’s sentence was reduced to 12 years for manslaughter.
https://sexindustry-kills.de/doku.php?id=prostitutionmurders:de:olga_p&s[]=sexspielen
https://www.lz.de/lippe/bad_salzuflen/7242977_Plaedoyers-im-Mordfall-gegen-Bad-Salzufler.html
Darmstadt (2008)
Carola S. was 44 . She was killed during casual sex with an internet acquaintance Christian B. (47). The killer and victim had watched pornography, when he gave her 14-15 ecstacy tablets dissolved in coca cola. Carola S. passed out, which enabled Christian B. to “live out his violent fantasies” on her, pushing objects into her abdomen, including a 12-cm dildo, causing her severe injury. After this he packed his things, cleaned up bloodstains and the apartment.
The defense argued before the court that the victim had consented to the drugging and the penetration with large objects, such that the ecstasy had made her not realize the severity of her injuries, meaning that she supposedly caused her own death. The defense asked for a single year in prison for procuring illegal drugs. The killer claimed he could not recall the crime due to his own ingestion of ecstasy.
Christian B. narrative was rejected by the court and he was convicted of “sexual abuse of a person unable to resist causing fatal injury”. He was sentenced to 9 years, increased to 12 years on appeal.
https://www.bild.de/regional/frankfurt/zwoelf-jahre-haft-fuer-toedliche-sexspiele-15803756.bild.html
https://www.bild.de/regional/frankfurt/frau-mit-riesen-dildo-gekillt-7764562.bild.html
Potsdam (2008)
Anja P. (20) was working as a model when she met her killer Michael F. (37) during a photo shoot. Shortly after she was found bound and dead in a motel. She had been strangled and battered with a frying pan. The killer claimed that she had agreed to sadomasochistic sex games involving “pretend rape” and that since she hadn’t signalled for him to stop, he assumed she was “playing dead” and had continued having sex with her.
Michael F. was found in possession of 2000 “sadomasochistic porn” videos featuring women being choked, and images of women who appeared to be dead.
He and his defence made astonishing arguments during the trial, that Anja had a “dark, unknown” side and that she had “practically forced” him, that they were in love, and that “he’d lost control of his sexual urges after seeing her immobilised body”.
During court proceedings the judge stated that he was considering a sentence of negligent manslaughter as well as murder.
The final sentence for murder was not a life sentence despite the prosecution arguing Michael F. was likely to re-offend and seek out future victims.
Murder, 10 years
Leipzig (2008)
Yvonne G. was a 27 year old lawyer. She had been found dead in her apartment with a rope around her neck. The police had initially decided her death was a suicide, until 5 years later Yvonne's mother persuaded them to reopen the investigation. In 2013, Markus Oliver K. (45) was charged in her death. Yvonne's diary entry said she had been sleeping with Markus Oliver. The prosecution proposed that Yvonne had died in a violent sex game with Markus K. He denied knowing her at all, although on the final day of the trial the court heard his DNA was found on the rope. Despite this, he was
Acquitted of all charges
https://www.bild.de/regional/dresden/tod-beim-sex-prozess-gegen-45jaehrigen-in-30570686.bild.html
https://www.bild.de/regional/koeln/tod-beim-sex-prozess-gegen-mann-aus-solingen-30570672.bild.html
Much more linkage in: https://m.bild.de/regional/leipzig/tod/freispruch-im-prozess-um-tote-anwaeltin-30886126,view=amp.bildMobile.html